How to Live a Life Congruent with your Message

­­If you’re on my mailing list, you know that on Monday I left your inbox with what I call my most cherished life lesson which is:

If you want to live a happy and successful life, you must learn to be congruent with your message.

Some of you may be thinking…what does that even mean? Or maybe you totally get it but you aren’t sure of how to implement the practice of being congruent with your message. I’m going to answer both of these concerns in this post today so keep reading if this speaks to you.

What does it even mean to live a life congruent with your message?

Most people get hung up on the word “message.” Some people think: what exactly do you mean by message? Or some people don’t even believe they have a message to share. When I say message, I mean your purpose, your calling, your truth, what excites you, what lights you up, in the zone of where you feel you are using your skills to most contribute to a better world. I am also referring to that inner compass that we all have – your values, your beliefs, your perspective.

I believe that we all have our own unique set of gifts, tools, and perspective that we bring to the world. When we are living a life where we get to use our unique set of gifts, skills, tools, or perspectives for the majority of our time then we are living in alignment (or congruent) with our message.

To keep it simple.. it's when what you’re thinking, feeling, believing, and care about on the inside matches how you’re living your life on the outside – your career, your relationships, your spare time, all of it. 

On the flip-side, when you’re spending your time doing things that do not excite you, challenge you positively, or light you up inside then you are not living a life congruent with your message.

This can be tricky for some people to wrap their head around because society has taught us that “we are only as strong as our weakest link” therefore we must spend our time developing the skills that we are not naturally good at. I believe (and lots of research has proven) that not only do we tend to be more successful when we are capitalizing on our strengths and living congruent with or message but we are also happier.

Who doesn’t want that?

How to live a life that’s congruent with your message.

1. Get to know yourself – really well!

I talk about the concept of becoming a self-expert or building self-awareness a lot because it’s so true. In order to implement any kind of change in your life, it’s important that you spend real time not just thinking about yourself but really getting to know who you are, what you value, and what your unique contribution to the world can be.

2. Write it down

  • Put pen to paper and try to answer the following questions about yourself:
  • What are you best in the world at?
  • What gets you the most compliments?
  • How can you use that to make a positive impact on the world or even brighten just one person’s day?
  • When do you feel most proud of yourself?
  • What qualities could you absolutely not live without in yourself?
  • What qualities do you admire most in other people?

If you have trouble answering these questions, try asking a family member or close friend to answer for you to get you started.

These questions can give you invaluable insight into what you value, what is a priority for you, and what qualities must be present in your life in order for you to feel that sense of calm, peace, and proud.

3. Re-align your life

There are a lot of misconceptions about life… like it has to be tough, it has to be full of challenges, you can’t make money doing the things that you love but don’t underestimate the power of re-aligning your life to give you more of what you value, prioritize, and love.  

When you’re living life on the outside according to what your message is on the inside, so much more is possible. For some of you, this could mean a gigantic leap in the direction of an entirely different career. For some of you, it could be as simple as discovering a hobby you never knew existed or maybe spending a little less time on social media and a little more time volunteering and helping people in need – this will obviously be different for everyone.

4. Read: The Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle Luna

Lastly, if you’re struggling with this concept at all, I highly recommend this book. It’s a really quick read, beautifully illustrated, and there are so many great tips that will help you discover your own unique calling and message without all of the pressure usually involved in something like finding your purpose.

Alright folks, none of this insight means anything without some action. Right now, take out a pen and paper and start answering some of the questions listed above. Try thinking of just one small change you can implement in your life today that will inch you towards living congruent with your message. For me, I'm not going to skip any meditations. I believe in it way too much to not do it. That's just silly. 

Let me know what you come up with or any thoughts about this week’s article in the comments below – this is a juicy topic and I’m eager to hear what you have to say!

As always, thank you for reading!